27 Dec 2008, Posted by jay rusovich , 1 Comments

The Female Object, Revisited

From a male perspective, women are objects first, human second.

Conversely, men are pigs first, human second.

As I’ve stated before, men see with their eyes, which is as cold-blooded as it is true.

In fact, what they see eclipses what they think. This is problematic from a number of perspectives, not least of which being our predilection for choosing narcissistic sociopaths over emotionally grounded women who value things beyond their deconstructed body parts.

Nonetheless, the body parts are still ground zero for us, sociopaths or not.

Ignoring physical attributes exposes women to hypothermia in the bedroom. This is because men want to see the same woman they met ten years ago. This doesn’t mean that she isn’t allowed to age, but he wants a reasonable facsimile that somehow ages unnoticably.

This is often the reason men disappear without a trace. They’re avoid confrontation. In fact, they’d rather escape into the dead of night than tell their wives to lose 50 pounds.

Women already know this, but they resent it, in spite of the fact that it just makes matters worse. So when their asses start knocking expensive works of art off the walls, men take it personally. The first thing they do is lose respect for them. Then they stop sleeping in the same bedroom with the creature responsible for destroying one side of a $2000 Posturepedic Mattress.

The following is a great mantra for women. It’s taken directly from the journals of Cultural Anthropologist – and good friend – Cecilia Stratisworm, and is loosely based on the 12-step template:

Step 1] I admit that I am powerless over my resentment towards men’s superficiality – and that my obsession with equality has become unmanageable.

Step 2 – I have come to believe that a Power greater than myself can help restore sanity to an otherwise twisted perception of reality that has more to do with projected fantasies than reality as we know it.

Step 3 – I have made a decision to turn my will and life over to the care of my personal trainer.

Step 4 – I have made a fearless moral inventory of myself as it relates to my delusions about men.

Step 5 – I have admitted to God, to myself and to another human being the exact nature of my delusions.

Step 6 – I am entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Step 7 – I humbly asked God to remove my delusions.

Step 8 – I have made a list of all the men I have disappointed with my obesity, and I became willing to make amends to them all by providing one free sexual encounter per person.

Step 9 – I will make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when doing so would lead to further injury; particularly when I sleep with several men in the same week, and sometime, day.

Step 10 – I will continue to take a personal inventory of my physique, and when I am eating poorly and not working out, I will promptly admit it.

Step 11 – I have sought through meditation to improve my relationship with men
as I understand them, and I thank God for making me the object that I am.

Step 12 – Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, I have tried to carry this message of objectification to other women, and will continue to incorporate this behavior into all my affairs; sexual and otherwise.

With this in mind, I’m shocked every time I hear women complain about men treating them like objects.

“Guys are always following me around with their tongues on the floor, ogling my ass like some animal from the Discover Channel. They act like I’m just a piece of meat.””

Note: Any woman who makes a statement like this is either a complete idiot, or not properly medicated.

She should be thrilled to have men following her around grocery stores. Would she prefer that he focus instead on the fruit juice display and then look right through her like a ghost from the Titanic on his way to the dairy section?

She should be down on her knees thanking her lucky stars that she can still command the attention of a 100-kiloton hydrogen blast.

But women should never take male superficiality personally. It isn’t a dismissal of her intelligence, talent, emotional substance and/or success. It’s just hard-wiring that performs its own unique check list, and then passes the baton to other faculties.

Gender differences in this regard are extraordinary. I am always astonished when I hear women talk about how they learned to love their husbands.

“I wasn’t even attracted to him when we met. But he was really funny and I loved his attentiveness. And before I knew it, we were dating…”

This behavior is completely alien to men.

They progress from lust to love, but never before a lot of exposure to the first part. For women, it’s the opposite.

So what role does a man have to play in order to attract the attention of women?

#1: He must be successful and reliable provider.

#2: There is no #2.

20 Dec 2008, Posted by jay rusovich , 0 Comments

Dr. Anton Zegoyavich on “Women of Prey”

“By the way, you’re fucked…” jbr

Photo of Dr Zegoyavich after injecting himself with the female aging gene. Unfortunately, this is the only image of Dr. Zegoyavich that I was able to procure from his agent, Cecilia Menincough Stratisworm.

Jay:

Dr. Zegoyavich, the last time we spoke you had just injected yourself with what you claimed was the gene responsible for female aging. Since that time you’ve lived as a kind of man-child with this extraordinary insight into the deepest recesses of female behavior.

Am I describing your situation accurately?

Dr Z:

Indeed, you are. I have moved far beyond the realm of physical things, as you can see, and into what I consider the primal mechanisms that drive the female human creature. I can only accomplish this with the genetic materials that contribute to the behavior in the first place. Do not judge my capabilities based on my current appearance. Be careful not to underestimate me.

Jay:

No, no…of course not, Dr. Zegoyavich. Believe me when I tell you what an honor and pleasure it is for me to speak with you.

Dr. Z:

Thank you. Okay so you wish to discuss the predatory instincts of the alpa-female, is this correct?

Jay:

Yes, as well as the particular men she chooses to exploit. You know, the ones who don’t realize they’re about to be being eaten alive because their narcissism is, as you’ve stated before, like a massive fog bank they cannot control…unlike certain females, I might add.

Dr Z:

Yes, well I can discuss this subject at length.The metaphoric “limping gazelle!”…Ha ha. Yes, well my gene implant has made them most obvious, I’m afraid.

Jay:

So basically, what you’re saying is that this gene has enabled you to pick your targets with pinpoint accuracy through the eyes of a kind of surrogate woman. You are able to sense specific weaknesses that enable you to exploit your prey before they know what’s hit them.

Dr Z:

Yes, I am like a terrible predator reptile of the highest order, only I am uniquely disguised the way beautiful women disguise themselves before feeding.

Jay:

That’s extraordinary adaptation, I must say. How exactly does it work? Can you set up a typical scenario for our readership?

Dr Z:

Yes, of course. If you understand that men are visual and that women resent this above all else, we can start from there. The most successful hunters put aside their prejudices and use male behavior to their advantage…while they can. They accomplish this by pandering to the fantasies that drive men in the first place. See, all women know exactly what these fantasies are, so don’t let them fool you otherwise. They simply assume that at some point along the way they can tweak a man’s perception of reality in general, women in particular, to fall more in line with theirs.

This never happens, however.

To simplify things, let’s use the following template as a departure point:

Younger women make older men feel younger. Younger men make older women feel older.

This is an inevitable consequence of these unions. Please don’t ask me deconstruct this, because I get bored quite easily, I assure you.

So, imagine a modern gymnasium setting where women are able to showcase their bodies under the pretence of working out in comfort. At this juncture let us introduce a female who wishes to optimize her workout by taking advantage of the wealth and celebrity of another woman’s husband. This is quite easily accomplished, because wealthy men are rarely satisfied with what they have. And because they can always afford more, they tend to acquire it when it becomes available. This is particularly true of men with too much time on their hands. Their minds wander, and like the unwitting gazelle on the Serengeti, they’re usually taken first.

Many of these men spend inordinate amounts of time in gyms for reasons that extend beyond health. This is a red flag. They are inadvertantly advertising that they wish to keep their options open. So they are vulnerable to women who are able to sense their predilections. Their genetics drive them to hunt long after it is necessary, which now renders them the hunted.

Jay:

So the tables are turned without their realizing it.

Dr. Z:

Precisely.

These men want it all, and feel they deserve everything and more than life can possibly offer. This is where the narcissism comes in and moral boundaries become relative.

Women of prey simply morph into living incarnations of the fantasies they know these men possess…or that possess them, as the case may be. They are physically flawless. Everything is in proportion to a genetic blueprint. Nothing is garish or obvious. Remember, this is about stealth, deception and opportunism.

Jay:

You’re saying these men are basically helpless. They’re slaves to their genes. They have no free will. They’re blind to the ramifications of their actions, particularly where women are concerned. If this is true, and women have become the hunter-gatherers, then what are men?

Dr. Z.:

A dying sex.

Jay:

Yea, and even if these men knew what was happening they couldn’t do anything about it because the women in question would deny their motives and move on to another target.

Dr Z:

Yes, because while men are willing to pay for their fantasies, they are not willing to sell the farm.

Jay:

So who wins in this world?

Dr Z:

It is my theory that average people tend to win, but ironically, are the least likely to believe it. They have lesser expectations, less narcissistic delusion, more day-to-day concerns. There is less time for fantasy and fewer resources to consummate them. The population leans in the direction of the mean.

From the perspective of evolution things are as they should be. We cannot all occupy the same stage. Someone must supply the audience. The people you and I discuss are members of an elite culture group who’ve grown too large for the planet. There is never enough space. This said, nothing of any extraordinary value would exist without them, so I will push on with my studies, and I assume, continue my discussions with you.

Jay:

Absolutely. And next time I’d like to know what happens to the wives of these wealthy, famous husbands. Who are they and why were they chosen over the so-called women of prey?

Dr. Z:

Who says they aren’t simply retired?

[end]

17 Dec 2008, Posted by jay rusovich , 0 Comments

In Defense of Sequential Romance: A Bittersweet Conundrum

‘Sequential Romance’ sounds like a contradiction in terms, but it’s not.

It’s still everything our culture fantasizes romance to be only now it’s packaged as a comedy or dramatic series, and sometimes like another re-run of “Aliens.” Just think of an endless parade of shorts strung out over time.

Inter-dependence used to be the thread that tied two people together for a lifetime. Now the word we use is codependence. It sounds kind of like the first one, but the new one carries a battery of psychiatric implications.

In the first one [interdependence] two people agree to share a common set of responsibilities and principles. The wife stays home, raises the kids, prepares dinner and pretends that your 22-year old secretary in the stilettos was hired to amuse your clients.

In the second one [codependence] one of the two people nurtures a serial killer because that person would rather die herself than be abandoned emotionally by the psychopath.

Obviously, the second one is more relevant at this writing.

The sequential part comes in when the S.W.A.T. van descends on your home at three in the morning and takes your husband, along with some frozen stuff from the Frigidaire down in the basement.

In less extreme cases, the portrait is of a single woman, with her own career, “Editor’s Cut” collection of essential girl films, daily yoga classes, the obligatory dog…and more girlfriends than you can count.

Go ahead and date her, but be prepared to do battle with everything else for her attention, which is never undivided.

See, she’s no longer what was once known as interdependent, and whatever predilections she has towards codependency are mitigated by a weekly visit to a psychiatrist, who she happily pays to keep you at a distance.

Why are you looking at me like that?

You think I enjoy telling you shit like this?

We’re incubating a society of individuals, rather than couples. Independent opportunists, not unlike the progeny of murderous alien reptiles, who eventually leave the nest to exterminate entire planetary populations under the pretence of survival.

15 Dec 2008, Posted by jay rusovich , 0 Comments

Fugitive Russian Scientist, Anton Zegoyavich, Talks About the Gene Responsible for Female Aging

Anton Zegoyavich after a recent experiment. His identity remains a matter of national security.

Jay:

Dr. Zegoyavich, it’s been said that once an age-identical couple reaches the age of 40, the woman looks old enough to be the man’s mother.

Dr Z:

That is an interesting question, and one I’ve explored for the past 40 years.

I would say that while a 40 year old woman can certainly be physically beautiful, the visual disparity between the male and female at this juncture is profound. It’s no wonder men so often choose women who are at least 20 years younger than themselves. Two decades seems to mitigate this disparity.

Jay:

So what’s behind it?

Dr.Z:

There is an insidious gene responsible for all of it. We’ve managed to isolate it in clinical studies using indigents from the streets of San Francisco. The city sanctions it as long as we’re willing to share our morphine.

Anyway, the gene prematurely ages women once they pass their prime, which of course, has the effect of refocusing male attention on younger women. The problem is that women today are waiting longer and longer to have children, which makes this gene particularly insidious.

Jay:

So the idea is that if you can either remove or deactivate the gene you can accommodate this cultural nuance?

Dr.Z:

That is correct. Yes.

Jay:

So when it kick in?

Dr.Z

This process seems to begin around the age of 30. It then accelerates rapidly after age 35. I’m sure you’ve noticed it. The key is to decommission it one way or the other without disrupting other biological functions.

Jay:

What does that mean?

Dr.Z:

Yes, well even though the gene has been isolated, I haven’t yet determined how to keep everything else running. There is a cause and effect relationship here. I wouldn’t want to shut down brain activity, for example.

Jay:

Yes, I can understand that, but I still know a lot of women who would be willing to take that risk. Does anyone else know about this? Why aren’t you on Letterman?

Dr.Z:

The scientific community is highly skeptical of my work.

Jay:

You might build more credibility by using more recent photographs of yourself. Most people don’t submit photographs of themselves as infants.

Dr.Z:

I’m afraid that the photograph isn’t as old as it appears. The fact is it was taken last week.

Jay:

Dr. Yegoyavich, did you inject this gene into your body?

Dr.Z:

I’m afraid so. I wanted to see how male chemistry would react to it. And from the looks of it, men are wired to run straight back to the womb. They seem predisposed to a kind of arrested adolescence. The irony here is remarkable. The same gene that ages women has the opposite effect on men.

Jay:

Most women wouldn’t find any of that surprising, with or without your experiments.

Dr.Z:

Well it’s quite telling. As you’ve stated so many times in your own writing, men are constantly drawn to the hunt. Each successful conquest – even if it’s changing a light bulb – provides relevance. Women aren’t concerned about relevance in that context. What they want is security, but it often hinges on physical beauty, which is fleeting.

All of us on my team concur that we’re onto something really big here.

Jay:

You have no idea, Dr. Zegoyavich…

[end]

12 Dec 2008, Posted by jay rusovich , 0 Comments

Battling Time with Delusion: A Cautionary Tale for Women

1] Career – CHECK

2] Sexual Freedom – CHECK

3] Financial Independence – CHECK

4] Equality – CHECK

5] Misery – CHECK

This discussion is limited to women in the 35 to 42 demographic who suffer from narcissistic delusion [give or take a year or two on either side of hell].

Women in their 20’s are excluded because their physical attributes rival the addictive qualities of crack cocaine, which of course, empowers them to rule the planet like Tyrannosaurs.

Generally speaking, women enjoy 15 years of uninterrupted beauty, starting at age 17 [for legal reasons]. Some men shorten this time line by 5 years, but I try to keep an open mind to the tiny fissures around the eyes noticeable only under halogen.

Many women find this level of deconstruction nauseating if for no other reason than because it threatens the fuel supply that drives their forays into the imaginary world of eternal youth.

Nonetheless, here’s the fantasy:

“Hi, I’m a 35-year old woman who has never had a problem dropping men to their knees. Sure, I’m just a bartender with a G.E.D. and a few felony convictions, but I’m still hot as hell, and that’s a lot more than I can say for those sagging socialite bitches whose middle-age husbands never fail to slide their business cards inside a wad of 20 dollar bills — on a 10 dollar tab.

I fully expect [and deserve] to meet and marry a handsome and successful man between 25 and 34. Any older and I’m selling out. And while I wouldn’t mind going younger, the guy better be on the right track, financially. Anyway, I won’t budge on this and I’m prepared to be single for the rest of my life if I don’t find him. I’ll just get a dog and be done with it.”

This is what I mean by narcissistic delusion.

With this in mind, no one enjoys witnessing the gradual disintegration of an aging woman in denial. I can’t count the number of online profiles I’ve read [and downloaded] of 30 to 40-something women stating a preference for “mature, handsome, successful and commitment-minded” younger men.

I keep thinking Debra Lafave, for some reason.

These are the same women who maintain “Platinum” memberships at 6 different dating sites for years on end. They use the same photographs with different profiles as though no one visits the World Wide Web more than once a decade.

So I’m actually being generous when I label them narcissistically deluded. I never say, for example, sex addicted or Borderline Personality disordered, in spite of the fact that these psychiatric conditions constitute the lion’s share of the pathology.

We all strike a Faustian deal with life. All of us. We get one thing in exchange for another, but never everything at the same time. The one exception might be unemployed Lotto winners who somehow run through 67 million dollars in 18 months.

This notwithstanding, while a woman may eventually meet a man who fits the physical archetype of her fantasies, he’s going to be at least 10 years older, have three kids from a previous marriage, and have no interest whatsoever in doing it all over again.

What women must understand is that men never see age disparity. Never. This is because once you’re in your 30’s you’re already perceived as older. It doesn’t matter what decade he happens to be in. He doesn’t do the math the way you do. He sees with his eyes…and what he sees answers all of his questions.

Am I getting through here?

Men can afford to play this game, but women cannot – unless they’re rich and famous – in which case they get all the reflection money and fame can buy, which isn’t exactly what they had in mind.

Goethe’s “Faust” is the tale of a man who engages in a blinding quest for the true essence of life. Frustrated with learning and the limits to his knowledge and power, he attracts the attention of Mephistopheles, who agrees to serve Faust until the moment he attains the zenith of human happiness, at which point he takes his soul.

Faust is pleased with the deal, as he believes the moment will never come.

10 Dec 2008, Posted by jay rusovich , 2 Comments

The Older Man/Younger Woman Model: Psychiatrist Catherine Vaginetti Weighs In

Dr V:

Jay, take a look at the woman you chose to feature in the above photograph.

It’s hardly a coincidence that her skin is like porcelain, her gums pink and healthy, her teeth white, straight, and polished…and her smile like that of someone who’s just starting her journey.

There’s not even a stitch of make-up, or the supporting cast of gaudy accoutrements so common to the terminally-insecure attention whore. She conveys a natural beauty, sophistication and charm that attracts men of your background; particularly when they’re half your age.

Jay:

We do look for things that are familiar to us. She reminds me of the women I grew up around. Unfortunately, I still think of them the way I did when we were back in college. In relative terms, younger women never change. They preserve the fantasy, while extending the quality – and horizon – of a man’s life.

Dr. V:

So they immortalize you…the perfect drug.

It’s interesting how primal it all is. The hunter is rewarded for beating the odds.

Jay:

It’s also interesting that it doesn’t seem to work the other way around.

Dr. V:

No. In fact it tends to have the opposite effect. Women are generally insecure about their appearance…and younger men tend to magnify the problem, by default.

They’re a constant reminder that time has passed, rather than gone backwards.  This makes them feel less valuable. In a vacuum, women are far more accepting of the aging process, but they’re not in a vacuum, which is why there is so much plastic surgery.

It’s blatant pandering to the arrested adolescence of men.

Jay:

It’s only negative in a certain context.

Dr. V:

It’s negative if you’re not dating a mannequin.

Jay:

No, it hinges on their relative ages. If the man is older the woman always looks younger, which mitigates his sense of mortality. Men are not going to date a woman who reminds him of graveyards in those old horror movies.

Women set it up this way. We didn’t have all these choices in the past. Now we’re over-run with young women looking for a refuge from the onslaught of young men who feed at will.

Dr. V:

To be frank, these conversations with you are vexing. With all the advancements made by women over the past 50 years, they still find themselves subjugated to male superficiality. They can either choose to ignore men altogether or participate in a game they can never win.

Jay:

I disagree.

Younger women should be taught from the time they’re kids that that men are superficial first, human second.

A 25-year old urban woman should never marry someone her own age, unless of course, she plans to move to Kansas.

Large metropolitan areas offer no support for age-appropriate relationships once the couple approaches 40. By that time, women tend to look 10 or 15 years older than their spouses. These men grow painfully aware of this disparity and start to see the end of their lives like an oncoming train.

I’m dramatizing things a little to make a point, but if women want to feel beautiful and appreciated, they must find older men who don’t take their youth for granted. Even then, women must still maintain their appearance. They must never, ever take for granted or dismiss the immutable nature of the opposite sex.

Dr. V:

You place so much emphasis on physical beauty that it gives the impression that nothing else matters. But I know that this isn’t true, even though it comes across that way.

If I had to explain your position, it would be that a woman must be perceived as physically beautiful in order for you to pass go. Once you’ve taken the bait and entered the room, the length of your stay hinges on how well the shelves are stocked, so to speak.

Jay:

Catherine, you’re starting to sound like me.

[end]

10 Dec 2008, Posted by jay rusovich , 0 Comments

The [actual] Seat of the Soul?

I was just wondering what happens to the soul after brain surgery?

If you become an altered version of the person you once were, what happens to the soul of the other person? Does it simply co-opt the new identify, or are there now two souls?

My close friend, Sarah, recently underwent her last – in an unfortunate series of – procedures involving blood vessels in her brain, and thankfully, everything went well.

But I do wonder what happens to the tiny fragments of personality that, in the process, are altered temporarily or lost altogether?

So the other day I asked a stranger on the street about it and she explained to me that the human soul doesn’t reside in the brain at all, but in the heart.

“Oh,” I responded. We all have our templates, and it’s nice to know that some women have one that actually makes sense, though I couldn’t get her to elaborate.

09 Dec 2008, Posted by jay rusovich , 0 Comments

My Crucible

Like most men, I drag around an immutable fantasy of what constitutes my version of perfect.

She’s a combination of elements that reflect some version of me, carved out of a subconscious need to finish something I don’t even remember starting.

I’m as aware of her presence as she is of my projections.

So she dances around the perimeter of my consciousness life like a marionette on a mission from Hell. She knows I want to dissect her in order to discern the imaginary from the brick and mortar. But she’s careful to maintain a safe distance in order to prevent me from performing a psychological drill down.

She doesn’t want me to obliterate the myth she’s become. Her existence hinges on the irreconcilable.

So the myth stands.

I thought I’d throw this out there because such fantasies taunt every man like Sirens screaming blue bloody murder for acknowledgement…as if they haven’t done enough damage.

04 Dec 2008, Posted by jay rusovich , 0 Comments

Dr. Catherine Vaginetti Interview, Part II…

From a single fossil, we know more about dinosaur behavior than we do about the behavior of the human female…” J.Rusovich, 2008

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[cont...]

Jay:

…No wonder I see so many attractive women in tight, impenetrable clusters, never interacting with anyone around them — primarily men. They know that when they get home they’ll have 600 email propositions to sift through from some internet dating site. They don’t have to lift a finger. And to make matters worse, they all own those fucking “Jackrabbits,” which have taken complete control of the earth.

Dr. V:

If a woman doesn’t have a man in her arms, she doesn’t want anyone to think it’s because she is unable to attract one. So they pretend that it doesn’t matter by ignoring everyone, while covertly chasing them down on the internet like packs of ravenous hyenas in the dead of night.

Jay:

I’ve noticed that women use alcohol in a similar way. When sober, it’s all about tradition and propriety. But after a few drinks, a new person emerges and propriety becomes relative. I like the hyena metaphor.

Dr. V:

Some women enjoy the company of men in limited doses. But in truth, most are far happier alone or in the company of other women.

Frankly, I don’t see much future for men. Their sperm will be preserved in various facilities throughout the world. And women will have the opportunity to choose from a wide range of male donors, without the burden of interacting with the man at all. They can choose, for example, the sperm of a great athlete, or musician or someone with extraordinarily high I.Q. Of course, the prices will vary widely, given the nature of the free market, but talk about pro choice!

Jay:

So this is what the future holds for men who aren’t gay?

Dr. V:

You raise an interesting point. Based on current patterns, there is no question that the sexes are being marginalized.

Jay:

I think that women suffer debilitating low self-esteem when they haven’t married and procreated in their 20’s. Even if they end up despising their husbands, in their minds, it’s better than being alone. Society perceives them as damaged in some way. And they begin to believe it, so they act out with women, jackrabbits, and of course, dogs.

Adding fuel to the fire is that the internet is arguably the best place on earth to exploit wounded females. It all seems academic to me. Men can’t even begin to grasp the concept of a beautiful, grounded female placing an ad online. He assumes that there’s a problem somewhere, and it has nothing whatsoever to do with the fact that she has, for example, a demanding career. They don’t buy it. So they begin the relationship from the perspective that they’re dealing with someone who’s handicapped in some way.

In my opinion, with the exception of the personality disordered and the visually average, women should stay off the web altogether. All it does is reinforce negative stereotypes.

Dr. V:

Okay, so why would a beautiful, successful, independent 38 to 42 year old woman be on an internet dating service unless she was hiding something? In the abstract, it really doesn’t make much sense, but in reality it does. From my own client experience – and I do have to be careful here – I believe that the vast majority of these women simply prefer their lives as they are. The internet is just a substitute for chasing the fairy tale without actually consummating it.

From my patient experience, men seeking the very best candidates online should look for less attractive women who may also be a little overweight, but are otherwise quite bright and stable.

The others are probably on par with the women you see in photocopies of wanted psychopaths down at the post office.

Jay:

I’ve dated a few of those, but I’ve never tried the post office…

[end]

03 Dec 2008, Posted by jay rusovich , 0 Comments

Dr. Catherine Vaginetti: An Explosive Interview on the Truth Behind Women and Online Dating

“Attractive women in their late 30’s and early 40’s talk a good game, but the reason they’re single and online is because they’re attention whores, and occasionally, sexual deviants who trawl cyberspace for discrete encounters under the pretense of romance. They never settle down because they refuse to give up control. Many run in packs, like raptors on the scent of a fresh kill…” C.Vaginetti.

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Again, we welcome Dr. Vaginetti into the studio; this time for a chat about older women who play the online dating game.

………………….

Jay:

Catherine, why would any attractive late 30’s to 40-something woman place a personal ad on an internet website?

Dr. V:

By ‘attractive’ I assume you mean attractive by male standards, because older women who are less physically attractive have every reason to be on the sites. The beautiful ones who linger on them for years are generally sociopaths.

Jay:

Then I guess I’m referring to the sociopaths.

Dr. V:

Most of them are just posing. They have little or no interest in giving up their lifestyles, which usually involve a self-sustaining career, a dog, a townhome, lots of girlfriends in similar circumstances…and scattered lovers throughout the country, surreptitiously referred to as ‘friends.’

Jay:

But these women state in their profile introductions that their demanding careers have made it difficult to meet new people. They say that online dating is the best way to open doors outside of their cultural niches, and weed out candidates who don’t possess the specific attributes they seek.

Dr V:

What they want is a diversion from all the other things going on in their lives. They go home and 160 new suitors have emailed them. It’s exciting, and with a simple keystroke, it’s a hassle-free way of controlling the destiny of each transaction.

Jay:

So you’re saying the whole thing is a ruse.

Dr. V:

Not for everyone. But when was the last time you heard of a beautiful woman having trouble meeting men…even if it’s in the grocery store? Nature provides for that. Men are wired to predate, and that’s what they do. The net result is that attractive women are always under siege.

The problem for them – in a social context – is that in order to maintain the appearance of propriety, they must go undercover. This is where the websites come in handy. Women can search an area outside of town – or halfway across the world – for fleeting sexual encounters with men who don’t know them or their friends. And no degrees of separation will ever reveal a common connection.

Jay:

Sounds like a culture group of sociopaths.

Dr. V:

In a sense, it is. These women want everything, without the consequences. They can live double lives and no one will ever notice that there are two entirely different people living under one roof. They feel entitled to ‘live their lives to the fullest,’ as they often phrase it, which translates…no restraints, no boundaries. ‘I will fuck who I want, when I want…and not be judged.’ Of course, that’s only one of them speaking.

This keeps the door open for men in their local communities looking for a beautiful woman they can actually trust.

I love the irony. These women have become the very incarnations of the men they despise.

Jay:

So what happens to these women when they reach their mid to late 40’s and are still single and childless?

Dr. V:

They have dogs and girlfriends. The dogs represent physically strong, but compliant and dependent men; while the girlfriends provide the emotional components necessary to consummate an intimate and loving relationship with another human being.

Jay:

Wow. So men have essentially been replaced by dogs and lesbians.

Dr. V:

Yes.

To be continued…